5 photography tricks to make a gay wedding memorable
As a photographer who voted “Yes”, I am happy to post this blog on behalf of authors Shantanu Biswas and Bronte Price. Bronte is a gay celebrant in Melbourne who I met while doing wedding expos down there a few years back. He’s a cool guy and I’m happy that he can help every couple marry.
Things are changing and mostly for good. One of the most noticeable and positive changes in recent times is the world opening up to the LGBTIQ community and weddings. This was undoubtedly long due but at the least, it happened before it was too late. Fortunately for us all, the world treats same-sex marriages a lot better in recent years. Things are good, there is more love and so much more weddings to attend.
It’s certainly a new thing for the rest of the world to adapt to. Be it seeing same-sex couples or accepting their lives and feelings aren’t different from the mainstream ones we know about. What’s important is being open to the right kind of change, accepting and cherishing them.
It’s a gradual learning process, for people and the vendors associated with the same-sex weddings industry. It’s not possible to entirely understand and comprehend how things work by just reading a book. However, it shows when you put in the effort. A same-sex couple would be happy to help with the terminologies and pronouns that they prefer.
This vast market demands an equally massive number of willing vendors to fill in. It is a big market and opportunity that same-sex weddings have created. It’s both smart and humane for you to equip yourself as a photographer with tips to cover same-sex marriage. And moreover, there’s love; there are good food, well-dressed people and a lot of learning!
Here are 5 photography tips to make a gay wedding memorable:
First off, understand what makes a wedding photograph memorable? The answer is, the emotion it captures. The pictures should be able to ignite good memories when the couple looks at them years later. It should be able to talk about their story and the journey they took together.
1. Get to know the couple before the big day:
You would do this even before a strait wedding photoshoot. These sessions will help you know the couple and understand their stories better. You can capture better images when you know the struggles and the joys that the couple has been a part of. Once the right kind of rapport is made, it becomes easier for both parties to collaborate ideas. The lesser the inhibitions, the better the pictures. Talk to the couple about what level of intimacy they are okay sharing in public. This will be the best opportunity for both sides to visualize the photoshoot that you are planning for them.
Every wedding is different and has its share of drama and problems. These specifications could be a little different in case of a same-sex wedding. It could be reluctant or conservative grandparents etc. Check with the couple and get to know these details. You can then decide what poses you suggest in front of the wedding guests.
2. Be particular about the pronouns and phrases you use:
All this while we have all been accustomed to very gendered pronouns, bride, groom, bridal party. Understand that these specifications do not make sense in a same-sex wedding. Be open to seeing new changes and adaptions of new traditions. There might not be a bridal party but a wedding party instead, that you would be expected to cover. Read up about the right lingos to use with same-sex couples. You can even choose to ask the couple what pronouns do they prefer, to avoid being hurtful.
3. Be careful not to be gendered:
As I was mentioning earlier, wedding poses and roles are usually very gendered. Be it when the father walks down his daughter or when the groom asks for her hand. Typical wedding poses are usually planned in a way to highlight the masculinity or feminity of the couple. However, plan to make things equal in case of same-sex wedding photoshoot. Its pure love, that requires to be captured by your lens. You don’t have to worry about the power game and their norms in case of same-sex wedding photoshoots.
4. Keep your poses open-ended:
Encourage the couple to be candid. Every couple shows their love in different ways, while some might be open some other would be sly about it. As a photographer, it’s your job to capture that emotion. Encourage the couple to be candid and not conscious about the photoshoot the whole time. Take pictures while they are entertaining their wedding guests. Capture emotions of the mother, the father and the pet. Years later, when the couple looks at the pictures they should be reminded of all things good: food, flowers and family.
5. Understand the importance of the power bestowed upon you:
The couple has gone through its share of ups and downs in their relationship. They have an entirely different story apart from the same-sex perspective. They have been through good days and bad days together and finally gotten together to be wedded in front of people that love them. This certainly means a big deal to them. They depend on you for capturing all those emotions that they can cherish years later.
Author Bio: Shantanu works as inbound content marketer at GayCelebrant.Melbourne & has helped develop it to cater to the LGBTIQ Wedding industry since 2018. He has closely worked with Bronte Price to learn the traits of the Australian wedding industry and loves to share his acute observations through blogging, weaving them into a brand story. He also loves to cook, trek, travel, dance and claims to have found his “why” in helping small business owners bloom into established brands.